Installment no. 3
Gig: As You Like It. June 11th 2011.
THE EX FACTOR
As Nick and I both work Saturdays the time between work and the Saturday night gig is always a mad blur. One of us (Nick) will cook while the other one (me) jumps in the shower (I don’t literally jump up and down in there, you know what I mean…). After some frenzied eating, there’s lots of frantic running around in towels and shouts of, ‘Have you seen my..?’ and, ‘Where did you put the…?’. Picture a Les Dawson style farce – without any comedy – and you get the picture. Apparently, couples who have been together a while move with a certain similar rhythm. Well, our Saturday night rhythm would be something very fast and very staccato with lots of tense pauses.
We arrive at tonight’s venue, As You Like It, and it’s packed as usual. It’s a very pretty, somewhat glamorous venue, decked out in shabby chic style. It has a reputation for having good bands on during the weekend and on a Saturday night you can expect a few hundred people in here. We’ve been playing at AYLI for over a year now and even though they are a notoriously tough crowd we’re lucky enough to be received well. (incidentally, this venue is the reason why the burlesque style clothing I wear for gigs came about. The clientele are all middle class (no such thing: working class pretending to be middle class) and the women are all of marrying age so there is a desperately competitive WAG vibe. It reminds me of being back at university where the skinny boarding school-educated girls who’d been clawing their dorm walls until that point would saunter around the student union vying for the attention of The Rugby Boys. I got by by throwing myself into the role of ‘The Quirky Welsh One.’ The first time we had to do a gig here the thought of having to actually get up and entertain those people was so abhorrent to me that I came up with a character – a character who can handle herself, a character who sings at an old school, shabby chic, burlesque venue. Hence, me going to a scary Goth shop in town, buying the only dress that didn’t have skulls on it and putting a massive 50s petticoat underneath it. The dress was born!)
Tonight the game is set: the men and women stand in packs pretending not to eye each other up. There is even a dress code it would seem – big hair and little dresses (for the women, not the men). There are two hen parties near the stage. This is usually a really good sign as our set tends to appeal to that demographic ( ‘demographic’: I’ve been watching The Apprentice…). However, tonight the hen parties look like those scary, sober hen parties. There’s not a sparkly tiara, pink feather boa or willy in sight (it strikes me that at least one of the Bridezillas might be pregnant. Perhaps she’s banned all alcohol and, consequently, all fun from ‘her’ night.)
I stand on the little stage to set up my music stand and hand out set lists to the band. As I look out across the two floors of a few hundred people (women hoping to look beautiful, and men trying to look rich), it strikes me, not for the first time, that all performers are adrenalin junkies. Why else would anyone put themselves through feeling this nervous? This is the moment when I usually seek out the most difficult looking ‘customer’ and flash them my ‘see I’m harmless and nice, please love me’ smile. I spot her immediately. She’s sat on the table directly in front of the stage (great!). She’s big, very big, and bottle blond, with her arms folded underneath her sizeable breasts and is glaring at me as if I’ve stolen her first love. I haven’t. Well, as far as I know I haven’t. You can never be too sure though as Nick made some bad decisions when he was younger…I flash her The Smile and it fails. Spectacularly. She folds her arms a bit tighter around herself and arches her left eyebrow even more. Oh dear.
The first set (of 3) goes well, with everyone apart from the two lame hen parties out of their seats and cheering. A group of middle-aged men stand as close to the stage as possible. One of them is videoing me throughout – always a little bit disturbing…Fat Blonde Woman sits statue-still through the whole set, her two hen friends dancing around her, apparently oblivious to her misery. The other hen party have started to migrate toward Nick’s side of the stage. I could set my watch by this happening about this time every time we gig here. The last time we played here a married woman refused to leave until Nick had spoken to her at the end of the night. I smiled (only just) and suggested she went home and gave her husband a cwtch (that’s a cuddle, not an STD).
By the end of the first set I’m soaked in sweat (nice!): my eye make up is on my cheeks and my lipstick is on my chin giving the impression from a distance they I have a receding hair line. I’m grateful for the break between sets where I can hopefully encourage my make up to defy science and stay on my face for the next set.
But no, the man whose been videoing me grabs my arm and gives me the usual nonsense about how I ‘cant possibly be 30.’ This irritates me when men do this: 1) it’s a really lazy chat up line and 2) what’s wrong with 30? While he’s telling me how much he’d love it if I sang some Boney M his friend is standing behind him miming a big snog and mouthing, ‘he loves you’ at me. Meanwhile, a couple approach to see if we could play at their wedding. I’m trying to concentrate on what their asking me but there’s some commotion going on behind me. I turn around to see that Lame Hen Party No.2 (NOT Fatty and her friends) have mounted the stage. One of them is pretending to sing at my mic, another one is sitting behind Mike’s drums and the third is plonking away on Ashleigh’s keyboard like Gremlins that have been accidentally fed after midnight. I HATE it when people do this! I wouldn’t turn up at their office and spin around in their leather chair and pretend to type on their PC (well I might but not right in front of them I wouldn’t). I resist the urge to say, ‘Hello. You f@@kers have woken up then,’ and instead I ask them politely to step down. They completely ignore me. Nick asks and they move immediately. Cue lots of girly giggling aimed in Nick’s direction.
Set two is my favourite set, it has all our best songs, everyone is nicely merry (absolutely hammered) and there’s a great ‘Saturday Night’ atmosphere. I’m happy with all the songs – apart from the fact that Nick is STILL joining in with the girly backing vocals in ‘Its in his kiss’. It just isn’t right to look over and see him aSking, ‘is it in his eyes?’.
A couple of young boys (well, their in their early 20s!) who I recognise from other gigs are standing very close to the stage, singing loudly and dancing (badly). So Private- School -educated -Chino -wearing students are not the type of Groupie most bands have but still…
In the break between sets two and three I can’t find Nick anywhere. Actually, this is a bit of an exaggeration (exaggerate? Who, me?!). He’s standing about 3 metres away from me but because the place is so busy it takes me a while to spot him. When I do, I see he’s talking to someone. A female someone. There’s the usual heart leaping into my mouth panic that THIS will be the moment when be walks off into the sunset with someone else. Someone who can cook. I take a deep breath, put a huge smile on my face and approach them. As she turns I realise I’ve seen her before. It’s an ex – girlfriend (of his, not mine). His FIRST girlfriend. Bloody brilliant! If they’re not coming on holiday with us they’re turning up at gigs! I slip into my usual routine of inappropriate jokes to show how ‘comfortable’ I am with the situation, I make a fuss over her ‘lovely’ (it’s mumsy) dress and ask her if she’s having a good night. It transpires that she’s with Lame Hen Party No. 2 so I doubt it…after 5 minutes of enduring mild mental torture I surprise myself by being grown up enough to walk away and leave them to it. I am able to do this because of 3 reasons. 1) She is Ginger (she would probably call it strawberry blonde but she knows the truth). 2) she is a little teeny tiny bit round. 3) she is wearing a wedding ring. Still, this is Nick we’re talking about: wedding rings and knickers alike seem to magically slip off in his presence so I keep them in my peripheral vision all the same.
Set three is brilliant! Lame Hen Party no. 2 have left and been replaced by people who are really ready to have a good time. Unfortunately, Fat Blonde Woman is still sat, arms folded, glaring at me. It’s been two and a half hours and IVe had just about as much as I can take of her miserable face. I’m not quite brave enough to look directly at her so I aim the comment in her general direction: ‘Oh dear! It would seem as though it’s past bed time for some of you.’ She leaves very soon after…
It’s now 1am and the good thing about performing to really drunk people is that they are very much like children: if you speak to them in a commanding tone, they listen! ‘We’d like everyone that’s left in the building to make their way down to the stage.’ And, sure enough, they come. ‘Raise your hands in the air!’ They do. ‘Clap your hands!’ And they clap! I feel like we playing ‘Simon Says’ and I’m Simon.
The Chino Wearers are still enthusiastically bouncing around at the side of the stage. One of them is screaming, ‘Marry me!’ all the way through ‘Do you love me?’. My mother is always telling me horror stories of friends of hers who went through the menopause in their early 30s so I briefly contemplate saying yes, but decide against it.
The middle class masks have slipped off as surely as my make up and by the end of the set people are on tables and one rather large man is trying to swing on the trapeze (yes, there’s a trapeze swing there) until the bouncers come to pull him down.
Nick is not normally very demonstrative during gigs but he is suspiciously affectionate tonight. Perhaps the proposal has him worried…
By the time we get home and into bed the sun is coming up. It’s Sunday and in a few hours we will be doing it all over again at a Social club in Byker, so help us God.
Congrats! You got to the end!!! Love, Kelly xxx
Copyright Kelly Roberts June 16th 2011