Dear Little Me,
1) Enjoy looking at the balance of your Halifax Savings Account. The ‘pocket money ‘ you have in there is the highest amount of disposable income you’re ever going to have. Sad but true.
2) Stop making notes from ‘Just Seventeen’ magazine on how to make boys fancy you. Some will. Some won’t. It’s a chemical thing. You have no control over that.
3) You are not fat. Ok, so you’re curvy with a round face and you don’t have that elfin, androgynous figure that boys your age like. But those ‘hideous’ bits that you cry over right now, will be the very things that men like about you in a few years time. So go on, have that extra donut.
4) On the subject of donuts, when Dado brings a plethora of pasties and cakes on Wednesday and Friday nights, don’t worry about how much you’ve eaten. Enjoy every morsel, lick every crumb, because in a few years time you’ll be told you have an allergy to wheat and you’ll be subjected to a lifetime of gluten free bread. And gluten free bread is the saddest thing to happen inside anyone’s mouth. Ever.
5) And whilst we’re on the subject of mouths, stop thinking you’re a freak for not having had your first kiss yet. Spoiler alert: you’ll actually have your first kiss in a week’s time in the dark recesses of the Arch nightclub in Neath whilst off your face on your first can of Hooch.
6) For the love of Christ, take those rocks off your bedroom shelf! Ok, you’ve got a mad crush on the boy that sneaked them into your school bag and you want to keep them as a memento. But he didn’t put them in there because he fancied you. He wanted your bag to be too heavy to carry all the way home. Us grownups frequently refer to that kind of behaviour as bullying.
7) Please stop playing Celine Dion’s ‘Think Twice’ over and over again. It’s not good for your psyche. Believe it or not, you’re going to tire of her voice in about 2 years’ time. You will, however, never tire of Tracy Chapman or Dusty Springfield. The love that you have for both ladies shall be life-long.
8) Put your homework down and go outside. There is a whole world waiting for you and it won’t cave in if you bring home less than an A just this once. I understand what you’re doing, but no one ever saved their family from the dark times by learning facts about Nazi Germany and reciting them parrot fashion in an exam.
9) You will go to drama school in a few years time. The teachers will encourage you to say vowels over and over again, until all trace of your Welsh accent is smothered by Estuary English. But as soon as you graduate, 99 per cent of the acting jobs you get will call for you to use your Welsh accent. For the rest of your natural life, every time you meet someone new, they’ll say this: ‘ARE you Welsh? It’s just your accent is a bit muddled.’
10) At the same drama school, the singing teachers will attempt to completely change your voice because it’s ‘phenomenal but f**ked-up’ (these are the actually words your singing teacher, Jack, will use). You will spend literally YEARS trying to contort your voice into weird shapes and sounds to fake that all-coveted ‘legitimate’ musical theatre sound. After almost a decade of rejection you will wise up and go back to using the very voice you already have now, as a 15 year old. And it will be this voice, your authentic voice, that’ll get you paid gigs.
11) You’re about to embark on years of relationships dominated my friendship because you think it brings stability and some kind of intellectual justification. F**k friendship. You’ve got friends for that. Save yourself for someone who makes you light up like a human glowstick.
12) You know that absolute chemical certainty you have, that deep-down-in-your-DNA-knowing, that you’ll be a mother some day? Well enjoy it, relish it, savour it: every self-assured day-dream about what your babies will look like, how many there will be, the people they’ll grow into. Because there will come a day when you’ll lose all faith that you’ll ever be someone’s Mammy.
13) So you’re still burning with shame from last week – when you walked all the way home from school with your skirt unknowingly tucked up in your bag. I’m sorry to tell you that you need to get used to this feeling. Because it’s going to be an intrinsic part of you. You have something innate in you that draws embarrassing situations like moths to a flame. Just try and style it out as best you can.
14) You’re going to spend a disproportionate amount of time singing with Elvis impersonators. Don’t question it. Go with it. Good things are going to come from it.
15) Sometimes you find the noise in the house overwhelming. But get out of your bedroom and go downstairs. Because a series of decisions you make in your 20s will lead you away from your amazing family. And their absence will put a dent in your heart that nothing else will ever fill.
Copyright Kelly Rickard 11.08.14