The Facebook Prism Effect
Remember at school, they’d give you a colorless glass triangular thing and tell you to turn it this way and that, eh voila, a rainbow? Well, think of Facebook as being like that prism. Put an ordinary life in, give it a bit of a spin, and out it comes all multi-coloured and…facebooky. Here are my favourite Facebook lies.
Facebook Trick of the Light: I am happy ALL the time.
Actual Truth: Happiness is a wondrous emotion, but it can be a slippery little fecker to keep hold of. Like a sunny day in Newcastle, or a rugby win for Wales, it is beautiful but rare, and everyone remembers where they were when it happened.
Facebook Trick of the Light: The ‘I’m not Gay’ Selifie.
The V in your top plunges deeper than the ocean, your moobs are hard as marble and smooth as a baby’s bum. You’re tanned from ear to ear and year to year. And there is a (different) confused and lonely-looking girl pushed slightly off centre in every shot.
Actual Truth: You, my lovely, are gay. You are gayer than the gayest one in the Village People. You have the gayness quota of all the Village People COMBINED. So drop your guard, stop the pretense, put on your pink t-shirt and come play with me and all my gay friends!
Facebook Trick of the Light: Look how thin/tanned/pretty I am.
Actual Truth: Instagram.
Facebook Trick of the Light: What a wild night we had! See all my photos?
Actual truth: No one ever, in the middle of experiencing a truly wild night, remembered to get their camera out. And if some photos did actually surface they would not be uploaded to Facebook for fear of losing your relationship/your job/your freedom (jail sentence, anyone?)
Facebook Trick of the Light: Any status that begins with ‘Some people…’ and ends with ‘#just saying.’
Truth: You aren’t just saying. You’re using the power of passive aggression to have a go at someone you’d never confront in your real life. I should know. I’m doing it right now.
Facebook Trick of the Light: Look! I’m in a band!
Actual Truth: No. You’re in a photo shoot. One involves cameras. The other involves instruments. And an audience. And getting paid.
Facebook Trick of the Light: Got something really exciting to announce later!
Actual truth: Nothing really exciting has happened to you for a very long time but your ex just tweeted that he’s off on tour so you had to say something.
Facebook Trick of the Light: I’m rich! Look at my new car/new boobs/new holiday villa.
Actual truth: When you look in the mirror you can actually see the whites of your eyes all the way round, you’re THAT frightened about making the mortgage this month.
Facebook Trick of the Light: Best holiday EVER!
Actual Truth: Oh go on, tell us the truth, it’s funnier. Like when you accidentally covered your crotch with anti-insect spray and it burned so bad you couldn’t go in the salty sea for the rest of the holiday – for fear the little man would drop off. No? That wasn’t you?
To conclude, I’m absolutely in favour of people spreading joy and cheer and good news. But I also think you should tell the little spin-doctor in your laptop to do one. We need to take the pressure off ourselves, have a laugh, be a bit self-deprecating. Because life is actually really quite funny. And sometimes the truth is even better than the spin you’re putting on it.
Kelly Rickard